Graphic nightmares following traumatic events?

You feel you're losing the battle of wills with your daughter, the pig that is messing with her and the death of your brother. That is why you "fall short" of succeeding in your dreams. The feeling of "helplessness". They are manifesting in your dreams. It shouldn't be hard for the police to follow up on the molestation, regardless if she was "willing". At that age, she is not in a position to know everything that is right or wrong. Also the states have laws protecting children from predators. Go to the DA and ask them where you stand. Put this degenerate away for statutory and sodomy. You also need to get yourself and your daughter into group counseling. Now, the lieing and all, that you spoke of before, is starting to make sense. She is traumatized in her own way and dealing with it in sub conscious ways. Acting out. She says it was willing but I'm not so sure that it's 100% true? I've seen this type of behavior in the kids I work with through the city, teaching the martial arts to. They keep things in and they manifest by way of action and violence. You both need counseling. Good luck.